TESOL 103 W05 Cultural Miscommunications

10 February 2019

This lesson certainly was an interesting one. Maybe now I understand as to why my Chinese guests ate so little. Len has a Chinese business partner who stays in South Africa, but they deal with a company in China. When we had these gentlemen to dinner Joshua suggested that I make traditional food, for example, a braai (barbeque). I went out to get some foods I knew they would not have tasted before. When snacks were brought out, they refused at first then eventually one of them tasted it. When we sat down to dinner, they both served a teaspoon of just one or two of the food items.  I can not even remember what I made them for dessert, but I was then told they do not eat sugar. Eventually, I asked Joshua whether they had stopped at McDonald's because they really did not enjoy my food. They had brought just big and expensive gifts for us as well. They knew that they were coming for dinner. Would I still need to offer it to them 3 times and does that not comply with the Chinese Community?
As Bro Ives mentioned about looking at somebody when you are talking, in our culture if you can not look somebody in the eye while talking, we take it as them being guilty of something. We also look at the person in their eyes when listening to them. You can be in a group and everybody will focus on the person speaking. If you are looking around while somebody is speaking to means that you are not interested in what they are saying and if you had to join into the conversation you would be looked at as if why are you putting in your two cents worth.
Is there a book with differences like this that we would be able to study up about it? Do you think that all normal people are aware of these differences? When we have a student would they be able to tell us what it is they expect from us culturally?

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  1. I do not know if exist "normal" people. What normal means? I think that everyone is different with a lot of things to teach and learn. In my opinion, people can identify differences when they want to learn and not just judge others. A great way to know more about culture differences is to ask for those to same people that shows habits. Not only we will be able to know what they do, but also why they do.

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